April 2017

This “Fat Friend” Photo Makes the Most Important Point About Body Insecurities

Michelle Elman is a 23-year-old body-confidence coach from London — but she hasn’t always been in love with her own appearance. After all, it wasn’t easy for her to accept the scars from her 15 surgeries, procedures to treat a brain tumor, punctured intestine, obstructed bowel, brain cyst, and a condition called hydrocephalus, where fluid fills the brain. Read more…

Blogger Michelle Elman Destroys the “Fat Friend” Stereotype in Viral Instagram Post

Body positivity coach Michelle Elman was sick of being thought of as the ”fat friend” and all of the negative connotations that go along with the phrase, so she’s decided to do something about it. Read more…

Woman Explains Why The ‘Fat Friend’ Stereotype Is Utter Bullsh*t

A body confidence coach has called time on stereotypes relating to our boy type, saying people should never make assumptions about someone based on their size. Read more…

This Body Confidence Coach is Done With the ‘Fat Friend’ Stereotype

Body positivity coach Michelle Elman was sick of being thought of as the ”fat friend” and all of the negative connotations that go along with the phrase, so she shared an Instagram post to speak out about it. Read more…

What This Woman Wants You To Know About Being The “Fat Friend”

After experiencing multiple health issues as a child, body-confidence coach Michelle Elman gained a bunch of weight and developed a scar on her stomach. By the time she reached her preteen years, she’d begun to feel like the “fat friend,” Cosmopolitan reports. Read more…

This body positive Instagrammer is taking down the ‘fat friend’ stereotype

Michelle Elman hasn’t always been confident in her body. For 21 years of her life, she refused to wear a bikini in public, feeling uncomfortable showing scars from her 15 surgeries – for a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, a cyst on the brain, plus hydrocephalus. Read more…

This body-positive blogger wants you to know that the “fat friend” stereotype is BS

Teen movies and TV shows have long wanted us to believe that this stereotype exists. She’s the unlikely sidekick of the prettiest girl in school. She’s the person who’s ordered to take the picture, and not stand in it. She’s the insecure one, worried about how she looks. She is, according to these types of movies and shows, the “fat friend.” Read more…

A body-positivity activist just destroyed the ‘fat friend’ stereotype once and for all

Plus-size people are often marginalized so much that they feel like the sidekick in the story of their skinnier, more conventionally attractive friends’ lives. It’s a stereotype reinforced regularly in film and TV shows, and one many bigger people unconsciously ascribe to.

But body-positivity activist Michelle Elman is literally calling bullshit. Read more…

This body-positive blogger wants you to know that the ‘fat friend’ stereotype is BS

Teen movies and TV shows have long wanted us to believe that this stereotype exists. She’s the unlikely sidekick of the prettiest girl in school. She’s the person who’s ordered to take the picture, and not stand in it. She’s the insecure one, worried about how she looks. She is, according to these types of movies and shows, the “fat friend.”  Read more…

Hoe het is om de “dikke” vriendin uit de vriendinnenclub te zijn

In films, tv-series en campagnes is er een standaard stereotype terug te zien: die wat dikkere vriendin. Met name actrice Rebel Wilson wordt met haar volle figuur vaak gecast voor deze stereotype rol. De Amerikaanse Michelle Elman zegt al jaren die “dikke vriendin” te zijn en doet een boekje open. Read more…

15 plus-size girls tell us how they really feel about the word ‘fat’

“You’re so fat.”This very three-word sentence has done an irreparable amount of damage on many a plus-size person’s psyche. To be fat doesn’t simply mean to be larger in the way that skinny means being smaller — it implies abnormality in a way that is… offensive. Read more…

Ela cresceu sob o estigma da “amiga gorda” e agora dá aula de autoestima nas redes

Este um estereótipo em torno da ‘menina gorda’ nos grupos de amigos”, começa dizendo a norte-americana Michelle Elman, de 23 anos, em um post que alcançou milhares de compartilhamento no Instagram esta semana, onde ela aparece só de sutiã ao lado de uma colega. A jovem é nome por trás do blog Mindset for Life, que promove a autoaceitação entre as mulheres de uma forma inspiradora e tem usado as redes para dar verdadeiras lições de autoestima. Read more…

This woman has had enough of the ‘fat friend’ stereotype

It’s something many of us are silently guilty of, casting our eye over a friendship group and unconsciously judging the so called ‘fat friend’. Often we assume she’s the quiet one who “sits on the sidelines”, but one woman has taken a stand against the ‘fat friend’ stereotype. And her refusal to accept “society’s label” has gone viral on social media.
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This body-positive blogger started a hashtag that’ll change the way you take selfies

Body-positivity activist and life coach Michelle Elman posted a photo of herself and asked a simple question: “When is the last time you took one photo of yourself? Not three. Not five, not 20. One.” Read more…

This “Fat Friend” Photo Makes the Most Important Point About Body Insecurities

Michelle Elman is a 23-year-old body-confidence coach from London — but she hasn’t always been in love with her own appearance. After all, it wasn’t easy for her to accept the scars from her 15 surgeries, procedures to treat a brain tumour, punctured intestine, obstructed bowel, brain cyst, and a condition called hydrocephalus, where fluid fills the brain. Read more…

This Body Confidence Coach Is Destroying The “Fat Friend” Stereotype

Michelle Elman is a body confidence coach but for 21 years she refused to wear a bikini in public. See, Michelle has had 15 surgeries over the course of her life – for a brain tumour, a cyst on the brain, a punctured intestine and hydrocephalus – and her confidence has suffered as a result. She refused to wear a bikini in public for fear of people seeing her scars but at age 15 she had an epiphany. Read more…

This body-confidence coach is saying what we ALL need to hear

Body-confidence coach, Michelle Elman, is the positive force we all need in our lives. The 23-year-old runs the successful mindsetforlifeltd Instagram account and is always on hand to provide her followers with encouragement and advice.
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How one blogger started a new body positive hashtag that’s taking over Instagram selfies

Body-positivity activist and life coach Michelle Elman posted a photo of herself and asked a simple question: “When is the last time you took one photo of yourself? Not three. Not five, not 20. One.”

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If You’ve Ever Felt Like The ‘Fat Friend,’ You NEED To Read This Inspiring Blogger’s Post

It’s safe to say that even most slim and stunning among us have felt like the ‘fat friend’ at one time or another. Maybe it’s that you felt like a troll when out in public with a pal who resembles a Victoria’s Secret model. Or perhaps you were just having a ‘fat’ day and couldn’t shake the feeling that you stood out as the chubby one in your group. Read more…

Jahrelang schämte sie sich für ihren Körper – jetzt bewundern sie alle für diese Bilder

Michelle Elman aus Großbritannien hat eine schwere Zeit hinter sich. Als bei ihr im Alter von 11 Jahren ein Hirntumor diagnostiziert wurde, musste sie 15 Operationen über sich ergehen lassen. Monatelang konnte sie nicht richtig essen. Als sie dann aus dem Krankenhaus entlassen wurde und wieder zu ihren alten Essgewohnheiten zurückkehrte, nahm Michelle enorm zu. Read more…

“Le stéréotype de l’amie grosse, c’est du n’importe quoi”

C’est le message que cherche à faire passer Michelle Elman, qui a toujours refusé d’être “cette fille”. En mars 2016, nous vous avions déjà parlé de Michelle Elman (23), cette jeune femme qui espérait changer la perception des gens à propos des cicatrices, et qui encourageait les internautes à montrer celles-ci et à ne pas en avoir honte. Et bien aujourd’hui, Michelle nous fait passer un autre message d’acceptation de soi, tout aussi inspirant: “Le stéréotype de l”amie grosse’, c’est du n’importe quoi”. Read more…

#OneTakeBeauty: en esto consiste el último reto ‘body positive’ de Instagram

¿Cuándo fue la última vez que te sacaste un solo selfie? No dos, ocho o veintiséis, para tener varias opciones donde elegir antes de subirlo a las redes sociales. Solo uno. Esa fue la pregunta que se hizo hace unos días Michelle Elman, una coach experta en body positive, después de darse cuenta de que la mayoría de personas perdían mucho tiempo haciéndose múltiples fotos y seleccionando la mejor de entre ellas. Con esa conclusión tan simple nació el reto #OneTakeBeauty, al que cada vez más mujeres se están apuntando en Instagram. Read more…

March 2017

4 reasons you don’t have to be healthy to love your body

When a fat person, in particular a woman, posts a selfie on the internet, more often then not amidst a sea of “yas kweens” and “slay all day” comments, there will be that one, lonely, shit troll.

And because bopo babes stick together, they will rise to her defense in a myriad of ways — both of which can be productive and unproductive. One of these well-intentioned, but unproductive, ways looks something like this:

“As long as she is healthy, who cares what she looks like?” Read more…

People want to replace body positivity with something more relatable

“How do you stay so confident?”. It’s a question most body-positive activists are asked – and it is a fair one. After all, the movement is bombarded by photos of folks who flaunt their rolls and cellulite without the slightest bit of perceived struggle. Read more…

February 2017

9 Reasons You Need to Ditch Your TV (Yes, Really)

Sure, watching TV helps you relax, keeps you informed, and gives you a laugh (or cry) when you need it. But what if we told you that the benefits of turning the TV OFF might be better than having it on? Read more…

This woman fixes fat-shaming memes to make them body positive

Plus-size women are attacked daily on the internet. We’re inundated with trolls in our body-positive spaces, we’re sent lewd and rude private messages, and of course, because it is 2017, we are meme’d.

Body-positive coach, activist, and #ScarredNotScared creator Michelle Elman is on a mission to change plus-size internet culture, one meme revamp at a time. Read more…

The Girl Complex

“Leave her be, it’s that time of the month.” “Pull your top up, you’re asking for it.” “That bloody Facebook, she never comes off of it.” No, you’re not being transported back to your teenage years in a horrendous and fairly unwelcome time warp. What you are reading are phrases mothers up and down the country throw about like a harmless plaything assuming their teenage girl’s susceptible sponge like ears are not going to drink up and absorb. Wrong.  Read more…

January 2017

Why We Don’t Need Diversity In Campaigns

Diversity. We hear this word all the time. People are praised for it, companies are revered for it and at this point in society, if you don’t include it in your campaign, you will hear the backlash via social media almost instantly. So what’s the problem? Read more…

These Side-by-Side Photos Prove You Don’t Know What Healthy Looks Like

You’re familiar with the concept of before-and-after photos, right? Right. We are too. But “after-after” photos are new to us, and a body-positive Instagrammer named Michelle Elman is showing us what two seemingly similar post-weight loss photos can teach us about being healthy and how to get there. Read more…

Body Positivity Is For Everyone

The Beauty of Imperfection has primarily focused on women who have recovered from life-threatening eating disorders. I felt it important to shed light on the fact that despite only focusing on one specific group, body positivity is for everyone. Read more…

December 2016

How to Start Off Your Year BoPo

Every year it’s the same isn’t it? We somehow muddle our way through from start to finish but as as time goes on we get less and less perfect and more and more ‘fixable’. Come the 31st of December, we’re ready to punish ourselves for who we are and what we’ve become throughout the year and the second the clock strikes 12, we’re expected to change. We’re expected to be better. Read more…

November 2016

Sky News: Embrace Your Scars

I was invited onto Sky News for their morning programme Sunrise to contribute to their segment titled The Point. I talk about how everyone has scars, physical or emotional. Click to watch now…

7 Badass Body Positive Accounts To Follow Right Now

We love a bit of Bo-Po don’t we? Whether you’re feeling great about your body and want to share that feeling with others or if you’re having a bit of a down day and just need to see and read some lovely posts to remind you how you can (and should) love your body now, body positivity is a great pick-me-up. Read more…

October 2016

Body Positivity on Hong Kong Radio RTHK Radio 3: 123 Show

Talking about body positivity in asia on the 123 show on Radio 3 with Noreen Mir and Bertha Chan from @curvasian. We have a conversation about why body positivity doesn’t exist in Chinese culture.  Listen to the clip here…

For Everyone Who’s Sick Of Kim Kardashian Being Trolled Over The Robbery

Can we address the victim-blaming that’s going on? Michelle Elman (@mindset_forlife): “The reaction to @KimKardashian’s robbery shows women are still blamed for assaults by men + victim blaming still exists.” Read more…

September 2016

Body Confidence In The Bedroom

Feeling confident while having sex can be a difficult task and with self-esteem and body image issues at an all-time low, it is unsurprising it is having an effect on our love life. I talk with Lucy Beresford about why this is the case and what can be done to boost your body confidence. Listen to the clip here…

To Every Girl Who’s Wondered, “Why Would He Be Interested In Me?”

At one point or another, we’ve all wondered why the guy we’re dating likes us and what he sees in us. However fleeting that thought may be, his good looks, big bank account or charming personality shouldn’t make you doubt yourself or your own worthiness to find love. When you start doubting your own desirability, here’s what you need to remember. Read more…

August 2016

I Am Not Your “Fat Friend”

I am not your fat friend. I am not the friend that you choose to go out with to boost your self-esteem. I am not the friend you compare yourself to when you are having a shit day. I am not the friend that you love walking into a room with because all eyes fall on you. I do not wear an invisibility cloak that deems me unworthy of love, that deems me ugly, that deems me not beautiful. Read more…

Scarred Not Scared – Michelle Elman

Scars – physical mark that often leave mental pain. Michelle bears the scars of 15 surgeries she had in her teens. Through the surgery and recovery process she became aware of the wonders of her body and found a gratitude for what the body can do and how it can support one through life Read more…

I Have My Whole Life To Find Love — For Now, My Career Comes First

It seems like all of my friends are in long-term relationships that are on the fast track down the aisle… while I’m single and loving it (or at least not really caring about it). I have plenty of time to find love, and right now I’m concentrating on something way more important: building an amazing career I can be proud of. Read more…

July 2016

This woman is challenging people’s preconceptions of Asians

Every race comes up against stereotypes, whether it be claims that all white girls love Starbucks, that black guys are all track stars or that Asians are all maths-whizzes. Read more…

Mindset For Life

Michelle Elman is a body confidence coach, the mastermind behind Mindset For Life and the creator of the #scarrednotscared hashtag. Through her work, she helps women to accept their bodies and guide them to self-confidence. After following her instagram for forever, we’re so happy to share her work with you! Read more…

A Guy Can Never Be Your “Other Half” — You’re Already Whole

When you’ve been in a relationship a while, it’s often hard to imagine your life without the other person. Your lives slowly become more and more enmeshed until you hear yourself proudly proclaiming that he’s your “other half.” It totally seems like a romantic notion, but is the suggestion that you’re incomplete without him really a good thing? Listen up, ladies: no guy can ever complete you — you’re already whole. Read more…

June 2016

Body Hair, Sexism and Beauty Double Standards

The company Office that read “Show a little leg, just don’t forget to shave first”. I was invited onto BBC Radio London on 10th June 2016 to discuss whether it was a sexist comment and whether it’s acceptable to tell women to shave. Listen to the clip here. 

Reinvent Yourself At Any Age

The growing list of celebrities proving that age is no barrier is inspirational. Janet Jackson’s joy at being pregnant at 50 with her first child is plain to see, whilst Christie Brinkley, 62, was beaming as she stepped out with her new rocker beau last week. Read more…

April 2016

7 Women Who Prove Every Body Is A Bikini Body

With warm weather just around the corner, most of us have “bikini bodies” on the brain. But what does that mean, exactly? It seems a little bit ridiculous that mainstream culture would have us believe that only one really specific type of body actually qualifies as a beach body. Here are 7 women who prove that every body is a bikini body! Read more…

This Is What Happens After You Become a Viral Star

Hashtag activism is real, you guys… and it works. From the plus size please hashtag to a tech industry diversity hashtag, social media is helping activists connect to tackle some serious, real-world problems. But who starts these movements? And what happens after something you tweet or share on Instagram goes completely viral? We chatted with two women — April Reign, who created #OscarsSoWhite, and Michelle Elman, of the body-posi movement #ScarredNotScared — to get the inside scoop. Read more…

March 2016

Scarred Not Scared Interview with Eddie Nestor

I was invited onto BBC Radio London on 18th March 2016 to discuss my campaign Scarred Not Scared. Listen to the clip here. 

Life coach’s empowering message about her scars goes viral

A 21-year-old life coach in London has become an Instagram star and viral inspiration after sharing her bikini photos and an inspiring video to help shed the shame she felt about scars left from 15 medical procedures. Read more…

Michelle Elman is ‘Scarred Not Scared’ of her body image

Michelle Elman draws the support and community of people from around the world. As stories from others with similar experiences flooded in, Michelle became inspired to launch a movement: this is for those who are Scarred Not Scared Read more…

Woman Who Proudly Bared Her Scars in Brave Bikini Photo Encourages Others to Share Their Stories

Last summer, Michelle Elman posted a photo on social media of herself in a bikini, showcasing the scars that came as the result of the 15 surgeries she had over the course of her life. Read more…

After Proving Her Bullies Wrong, This Woman Made A Video For Anyone With Scars

“It was frustrating typing into Google ‘how do I tell my boyfriend about my scars’,” Michelle Elman told BuzzFeed News. Read more…

‘You are so brave’: Bikini-clad Brit shows off her 15 surgery scars in empowering post that’s inspiring thousands

A brave woman claims that bearing her 15 surgery scars in a bikini is the ‘bravest thing’ she’s ever done. Life coach Michelle Elman, 21, suffers from a long-term brain condition known as hydrocephalus. Read more…

How One Woman Is Inspiring Others To Be ‘Scarred Not Scared’

In January, Michelle Elman made a promise to herself to wear a bikini despite the hurtful comments people made about her scars. Now, she’s fulfilled that promise and is spreading an inspiring message along with it. Read more…

Scarred Not Scared: Video of people sharing the story behind their scars proves that all bodies are beautiful

When you tell people that you have had 15 surgeries from a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, an obstructed bowel, a cyst in my brain and a condition called hydrocephalus, people respond in a number of ways: shock, sadness, sympathy, empathy but mostly – kindness. Read more…

Inspired By A Woman’s Instagram Post, People Share Emotional Stories Behind Their Own Scars

This young 22-year-old woman is a body confidence coach and creator of #ScarredNotScared, a campaign empowering people to celebrate their scars as oppose to hiding them. Read more…

Woman’s Powerful Video Encourages Others To Embrace Their Scars

The “Scarred Not Scared” project empowers people around the world to embrace their scars rather than hide behind them.For years, 22-year-old Michelle Elman struggled with body-image issues stemming from a wide array of surgical scars she amassed from 15 procedures, a brain tumor, a punctured intestine, a brain cyst, an obstructed bowel and living with a condition called hydrocephalus.

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Love Yourself – A Tribute to #ScarredNotScared

We’ve all heard it… it doesn’t matter what you look like on the outside…It’s what’s on the inside that counts. I’m sure someone beautiful made that up. Read more…

Why These Women Are Bravely Sharing Their Scars on Camera

Michelle Elman, a 22-year-old life coach based in London, is bringing an under recognized body taboo to the surface of social media. Elman bravely shared her scars in a body positive Instagram post that went viral last year. On March 9, she unveiled a powerful follow-up video campaign “Scarred Not Scared”. Read more…

See How One Woman Is Removing the Stigma Around Scars

We’re taught to hide our scars—both the physical and emotional kind—because they make others uncomfortable. Michelle Elman, a body confidence coach, knows this all too well. She felt ashamed of her body, especially her scars from 15 surgeries. Read more…

The Body Positive Video You Need to Watch #scarrednotscared

Last summer, I stood in a bikini baring my scars to launch my campaign Scarred Not Scared. My blog post titled: “People with Scars Can’t Wear Bikinis”, went viral appearing in media all over the world and getting the attention of big social media influencers and celebrities alike. Read more…

I’m Scarred, but I’m Not Scared Anymore

In the last week, a video I made for my campaign called Scarred Not Scared went viral, receiving over 20,000 views and appearing in Fox News, Buzzfeed, People, The Sun, Daily Mail and The Independent. After my initial photo that launched, the campaign went viral and I got all these messages from people sharing their story with me for the first time. I felt so honoured that they had opened up to me — and that’s when it really hit me that so many people are going through very similar issues each day. So I decided to make a video sharing some of their stories. Read more…

February 2016

Body beautiful: Michelle Elman’s (BSc 2014) Mindset for Life

Psychology graduate, Michelle Elman (BSc 2014), started her own life-coaching company, Mindset for Life, in order to address body confidence and self-esteem – issues which have affected her personally, along with countless people worldwide. She also launched the social media campaign #ScarredNotScared, sparking conversations about body image across various platforms. Here, Michelle tells her story. Read more…

January 2016

This girl’s Instagram reminds us that any body can be a bikini body

It’s easy to get caught up in your own insecurity and think that if you don’t have a perfectly toned, perfectly smooth body that bikinis aren’t for you. Though the media is increasingly embracing all different types of bathing suit babes, and it’s easy to look at someone else’s imperfections and still see them as beautiful, it can still be hard to show off our own.  Read more…

‘I was taught that scars were “unlady-like” and “ugly” – Michelle Elman on going viral and learning to love her body

In July 2015, a picture of Michelle Elman in a bikini went viral as she encouraged people with scars to embrace their bodies. Here, as part of our #loveyourbody series, she reflects on what it was like when people all over the world saw her image, and what she learned about herself. Read more…

December 2015

The 16 Best Moments for Body Image Acceptance in 2015

This year more than ever, people clapped, slapped, and hit back at haters who dared to shame them for anything. Mostly, the Internet supported those who stood up for themselves after they were made to feel they shouldn’t look a certain way. Rightfully so! In 2015, there is no reason for anyone to be ashamed what what he or she looks like … duh! Without further ado, here are the absolute best instances of body acceptance from the past year.  Read more…

November 2015

Dear Essena: The Reality Behind My Instagram

As some of you might have heard of Essena deleting her Instagram account as well as all her other social media accounts. I hadn’t heard but when I woke up this morning with 5 messages about it, I decided to write a blog post about it! Read more…

October 2015

Your ‘One and Only’ Home…

Shine Member, Michelle Elman has Hydrocephalus. Here she shares her experience of one aspect rarely talked about, and why body image matters. Read more…

September 2015

Woman, 27, who has undergone FOUR open heart surgeries finally finds the confidence to proudly bare her scars in a bikini – and shares a picture online to inspire others

A teen who suffered from a severe heart defect which required four rounds of open heart surgery has proudly bared her scars in a beautiful bikini shot, which she posted online in an attempt to celebrate her body, and everything that it has been through. In her original post on Imgur, Kelsey explained that she is ‘so proud’ to finally feel confident enough in herself to show her bikini off in public; and she’s not the only one to have embraced her body in this kind of way. Michelle Elman, 21, who is originally from Hong Kong and now lives in London, used to cover up scars on her stomach caused by operations needed for serious health problems.Read more…

August 2015

How Wearing A Bikini Helped Me Gain My Power Back

“Why is she staring at me?” I asked my friend, standing in the hot springs in the middle of Tokyo, exposed. I had been there all day and was enjoying the tradition of the Japanese culture as you were supposed to — naked. Read more…

9 signs you deserve better friends

It takes a certain level of confidence to stand up to your friends, let alone know when it’s time to leave them behind. Ditching your friends is like a bad break-up – lots of mutual friends, awkward encounters and a lot of bitching but sometimes you just need to let the friendship go because it will affect your self confidence… and don’t fool yourself into thinking otherwise. Read more…

Project Harpoon Vs Scarred Not Scared

The latest Facebook page to receive criticism is one that has decided to digitally alter photos of plus-size women and men and place this highly edited version alongside the original image to demonstrate how much potential these plus size individuals would have if they just lost some weight. Read more…

July 2015

Michelle Elman on the bikini photo that’s inspiring women to love their bodies

If you find yourself thinking twice about putting on a bikini this summer, look to this inspiring Instagram post.After years of working up the courage to wear a two-piece, British body-confidence coach Michelle Elman posted a photo of herself in a bikini, which reveals the deep scars she carries from 15 surgeries she’s had since childhood. Read more…

‘No one should have to feel ashamed of their body’: Woman who spent years hiding her surgery scars dons a bikini and strikes a pose on Instagram to inspire others

A young woman who has spent years feeling embarrassed by her surgery-ravaged figure has ‘banished her body woes’ – and is urging others to do the same. Michelle Elman, 21, who is originally from Hong Kong and now lives in London, used to cover up scars on her stomach caused by operations needed for serious health problems. Read more…

This woman bravely decided to shut down the haters with this bikini picture

Meet Michelle Elman.The 21-year-old recently decided to share a picture of herself in a bikini – something she said is one of the most difficult things she has ever done.  Read more…

This Woman Shut Down Her Body-Shamers With the Most Amazing Bikini Photo of Her Scars

Michelle Elman, a 21-year-old body confidence coach, posted the above photo to Instagram with the caption, “People With Scars Can’t Wear Bikinis.” Elman further explains that because of the scars she has from multiple surgeries for life-threatening conditions, people had been “disgusted” by her in a bathing suit in the past. Until she recently realized it doesn’t really matter what people think, she’d been too afraid to wear a bikini in public. Read more…

Woman Who Used to Be Ashamed of Her Scars Proudly Bares Them in Bikini Photo

Over the course of her life, Michelle Elman has had 15 surgeries to treat a number of medical issues – including a brain cyst, a brain tumor, hydrocephalus and an obstructed bowel – leaving her with several visible scars on her body that she tried to hide for a very long time. Read more…

9 reasons why you should love your body

You’ve heard it before – you should love your body, you should love yourself…People have been saying it for a while and with the body positivity movement as strong as ever, you would think there would be more body love going around. Read more…

Pictured: Brave woman left with deep surgery scars posts bikini photo to show she’s comfortable in her body

Michelle Elman said she took the brave step to encourage others who may be self-conscious about their scars. Read more…

This Woman Shut Down Bullies Who Said Her Scars Made Them Uncomfortable

Last week, Michelle Elman, a 21-year-old from London, decided to confront her insecurities surrounding her surgery scars and uploaded this bikini shot to Instagram. Read more…

People with Scars Can’t Wear Bikinis

This is what I have believed for the last 21 years of my life and when asked in January why I never wear bikinis, this horrible sentence came out of my mouth. I was shocked – at myself! I had had 15 surgeries, a brain tumour, a punctured intestine, an obstructed bowel, a cyst in brain and have lived for the last 21 years with a condition called Hydrocephalus yet somehow my scars have always been the hardest part. Read more…

No one should feel ashamed to wear a bikini

For the last 21 years of my life, I have never worn a bikini in public.
Why? Because my body and, more specifically, my scars made people uncomfortable. Read more…

This Blogger Shut Down Her Body-Shamers With the Most Amazing Bikini Photo of Her Scars

“My belief is that no one should have to feel ashamed of their body, whether you have stretch marks or a scar…”. Elman further explains that because of the scars she has from multiple surgeries for life-threatening conditions, people had been “disgusted” by her in a bathing suit in the past. Read more…

After Being Bullied About Her Surgical Scars, This Woman Responded In The Most Amazing Way

Those with surgery scars can attest to how difficult it can be to show them out in public, for fear of ridicule or unwarranted stares. But one brave 21-year-old woman from London faced her fears in the most beautiful way.  Read more…

The Body Positive Bikini Pic You Need To See

Considering how much negative messaging we get about our bodies in simple day-to-day life, and how constantly we’re told that only a certain type of body is desirable or “bikini ready,” it’s awesome to hear about women like Michelle Elman and her #scarrednotscared campaign. Elman recently posted a bikini pic showing off her scars to Instagram and reminded us all what it means to be truly body positive — both with the image itself, and with her response to trolls trying to shame her for it. Read more…

Woman Shuts Down Her Bullies With A Gorgeous, Proud Bikini Photo

It isn’t easy to embrace your flaws — much less put them on display for all to see. But that’s exactly what blogger Michelle Elman recently did in an inspiring Instagram post encouraging others to love themselves, perceived flaws and all. Read more…

The very important reason this woman’s bikini pic is going viral

The fact that we’re already halfway through the summer season may come as a relief to some women. Because with the end of summer comes the end of so-called “bikini season,” which tends to separate the “body confident” from the “body insecure” in a truly startling way. But, if 21-year-old Michelle Elman has anything to say about it (and she does), bikini season shouldn’t be a time for high anxiety and low self-esteem, it should be a time for celebration. Especially when you’ve gone through as much as she has.  Read more…

This Badass Woman Just Spoke the Truth About Bikinis that Everyone Should Hear

We pick our clothes — our clothes don’t rule us. But as obvious as that sounds, how we look in our clothes can ruin our days, make us question our worth and make us fundamentally uncomfortable with who we are. Read more…

People with scars can’t wear bikinis’ Meet the woman who’s proving the bullies wrong

Whether it’s a body part we’re particularly unhappy with, a patch of cellulite we’d rather keep covered or even just a general feeling of exposedness, many of us feel self-conscious in swimwear, but Michelle had a rather particular battle to fight – accepting and embracing scars from fifteen surgeries she’d endured throughout her young life. Read more…

13 ways to be confident in the skin you are in

Everywhere you look there are pictures and statements that are designed to make you feel insecure about your looks and your body and frankly we’ve had enough. Read more…

Why This Brave Woman’s Selfie Is Starting a Movement

From moms changing the world to challenging (as well as breaking) the conventional notions of “beauty” and “flaws,” we’re regularly sharing inspiration across the Internet. Plus-size beauty vlogger Loey Lane hit back to trolls who told her she couldn’t wear a bikini. Instagram unblocked the term #curvy because they recognized that the term is closely tied to body positivity. And recently, Italian footwear brand Woz Shoes swore off Photoshop in an effort to promote the idea that “normal is special,” rather than pushing an impossible ideal of beauty. The latest person on our radar is Michelle Elman.  Read more…

Blogger showt imperfecte lichaam met littekens

“Als je zoveel littekens hebt, mag je geen bikini dragen”, vond Michelle Elman jarenlang. De 21-jarige blogger uit Amerika durfde haar buik door de littekens van verschillende operaties niet meer te tonen. Tot nu! Michelle besloot dat nu wel te doen en haar foto ging viral. Read more…

A Photo Of This Woman In A Bikini Has Gone Viral For A Very Important Reason

The thought of wearing a bikini can strike fear into the hearts of many. Being “too skinny”, being “too big”, the pressures of grooming or feeling ashamed of any body difference at all can throw many into panic. But 21-year-old Michelle Elman has taken to Instagram to dispel the myth that only a certain type of person is allowed to wear a bikini. Read more…

Michelle Elman’s Bikini Photo Inspires You to Love Your Body

Let’s face it, we are all self-conscious when it comes to our own body image. We’re constantly bombarded with negative messages as to what is beautiful or desirable. TV, billboards, fashion, music, and basically most of our art and culture all reinforce these stereotypes. Michelle Elman’s story, therefore, comes as a breath of fresh air.  Read more…

Woman Bullied for Flaunting Scars in Bikini Has the Perfect Comeback (VIDEO)

When it comes to getting your body “bikini ready” for the summer, you need to make sure you have three things: a cute suit, some sunscreen, and a kick-ass sense of body confidence. And let your inspiration be Michelle Elman, who was bullied for showing her post-surgical scars in a bikini.  Read more…

#ScarredNotScared Is Showing Women What A True Bikini Body Looks Like

I’m sure by now you’ve all heard the terms ‘bikini body’ and ‘body shaming.’ They’re two terms that seem to go hand-in-hand this summer, and one woman is doing something about that. Read more…

Michelle (21) geeft pesters van katoen: Kus mijn reet

Noem het gerust een persoonlijke mijlpaal: Michelle Elman uit Londen plaatste vorige week deze bikinifoto op Instagram om haar onzekerheid rond de littekens op haar lichaam te overwinnen. Niet iedereen reageerde echter even lovend: toen een van de ‘pestkoppen’ een kwetsende opmerking over haar gewicht maakte, diende de 21-jarige Londense hem van een gepast antwoord. Read more…

Commentaar op haar littekens? Michelle dient de haters van antwoord

Noem het gerust een persoonlijke mijlpaal: Michelle Elman plaatste vorige week deze bikinifoto op Instagram om haar onzekerheid rond de littekens op haar lichaam te overwinnen. Niet iedereen reageerde echter even lovend: toen een van de ‘pestkopjes’ een kwetsende opmerking over haar gewicht maakte, diende de 21-jarige Londense hem gepast van antwoord. Read more…

June 2015

Three Lessons From 15 Operations: Part Three

Acceptance, this one is certainly not easy. For me, this was a process – at many stages in my life, I believed I had accepted my circumstance and moved on, only to be confronted with it again a year or two later. It is only now I realise that acceptance comes in stages and that it is never too late to have revelations about the past. Read more…

Three Lessons From 15 Operations: Part Two

The middle post of this trilogy and much like a middle child, this point is as equally important as the other two and shouldn’t be ignored, especially because this topic may seem obvious. Lesson 2: You don’t have to be happy all the time and everyone has a right to feel what they damn well want to feel. Excuse my language, but sometimes the middle child needs to make more of a exclamation to be heard. Read more…

Three Lessons From 15 Operations: Part One

As I mentioned in my last post, I have had a series of medical surgeries over the last two decades. I won’t go into the details as that could be a whole blog post of its own; in fact, it is soon to have a book of its own. Instead, in this article, I am going to discuss what my experiences have taught me because I believe it has made me into the person I am to a large extent. Read more…

Four Lessons I Learnt From Therapy

I made myself vulnerable last week as I believe it is important. It is what each and every client does when they walk into my office for coaching and I have been in the exact position myself. Over the last 10 years I have dipped my toe in and out of the therapy pool whenever I have needed help. I did this for one main reason. Read more…

May 2015

Am I Ugly?

10,000 women every month google the words “Am I ugly?” and after the week I have been having, I am not surprised why. Read more..

Why Adversity Makes You One Step Closer to Being a Superhero

Every superhero story begins with the same key element. Batman lost both his parents, Spiderman lost his uncle, Green Arrow lost his fortune, Captain America overcame ill health. Have you noticed a theme yet? All these heroes are praised for overcoming the odds as they overcame adversity. Read More…

April 2015

Inspiring Entrepreneurs – Michelle Elman

This week I am delighted to introduce Michelle Elman who has turned great adversity into her inspiration for starting her own business and helping others. A great lesson in not giving up and not letting challenges beat you. Read More…

March 2015

The Price Of Confidence

Congratulations, you’ve started a company! You’ve got all this energy, rearing to go, you’ve sorted out your products and your services, your website looks perfect but there’s one problem. How much do you charge? Read More…